Marriage Problems: Inescapable Facts You May Not Know

August 29, 2009 · Filed Under marriage tips 

Just because you married your high school sweetheart and he/she shares your faith and you think “Our marriage is going to get better and better, after all, we’re christians”

Being a christian does not guarantee a trouble free marriage, after all, Marriage problems can happen in any marriage. There has even been some research to indicate that the rate of divorce among christians mirrors that of non christian marriages. If so, Do you throw up your hands and give up on your marriage and get a divorce because you had a heated argument? Absolutely not?

Conflict, disagreements are inevitable at some point in your marriage.

Don’t let your marriage problems get the best of you. You can take some concrete steps to turn things around. You must acknowledge that there is a problem and deal with it quickly, There is that saying “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger” which is so true.

If you and your spouse refuse to deal with that conflict or even to acknowledge that there is a problem, like cancer it will continue to fester and it will eventually blow over. Don’t think that if you have some major issues in your marriage and you both refuse to deal with them, that somehow,like magic it will work itself out. That’s not going to happen.

Just yesterday, a woman was arrested for handcuffing herself to her husband in order to iron out their marriage problems and going on to assault him as well, this is not the way, by any stretch, the appropriate way to deal with conflict/disagreements.

Different People…Different Viewpoints

Whenever you have two different people with differing view, at times its going to cause friction, friction naturally causes heat and heat as you know, causes fire, that doesn’t mean that any marriage problems can’t ultimately, be handled in a Godly way that brings harmony regardless of the circumstances. No two people are going to like the exact same things or see things in the exact same way.

Don’t try to outdo each other:

Many couples have those infamous heated arguments and will throw everything, including the kitchen sink,in an effort to hurt or outdo their spouse and “win” the arguement by dredging up things that happened in the past,even things that are unrelated to the topic at hand, things that have already been dealt with or even things one spouse had told them in confidence is now being used to ridicule them instead. Don’t fight fire with fire.

Overcome evil with good. Romans 12v21.  Do you know that song by Sara Evans “I could not ask for more”? It has one line saying “smiling just to see that smile upon your face”

When you argue, try not to shout or yell at your spouse, it seems that the more you shout and yell, the more your spouse will shout and yell in response, trying to shout over you to dominate the arguement, besides being immature,destructive and counterproductive,its not pleasing to God and it does not set a good example to the children who are bound to see and hear Dad And Mom “going at it”

 

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